They say that good communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. But when you are faced with the stresses of life or simply differences in how you communicate yourself to your partner and taking them on romantic getaways doesn’t work for them anymore, it will lead to deeper conflicts if unresolved immediately. This is why many experienced couples counselling in Melbourne are offering a safe space for partners so that they can learn and relearn their personalities that hinder them from communicating better and that they may create a safe space on their own to express themselves and understand each other better even if the same issues arise in the future.
Identifying Communication Barriers
In any relationship in general, misunderstandings come because of the communication barriers that neither you nor your partner are aware of, and the couples counsellor can spot and identify these barriers through the interactions you’ve made with one another. We understand that counselling might be awkward in this situation, but trust your counsellor on this, as they are good at gently pointing out the patterns you and your partner have that create tension between the two of you.
Learning Effective Communication Techniques
Couples counselling is not just resolving conflicts but also teaching you effective communication skills that can help you and your partner to connect on a much deeper level, such as:
- Active listening or understanding where your partner is coming from without interrupting them so they can feel better understood in their situation.
- “I” statements or opening the floor for shared personal emotions and perspectives so that your partner doesn’t feel like it’s an attack against them.
- Body language awareness, or non-verbal cues that influence communication, highlights the role of gestures and eye contact as a basis for understanding each other better.
Building Empathy and Understanding
Putting yourself in your partner’s shoes is a bit tricky because a lot of us think that we always understand their viewpoint. Building empathy means you can develop a way to talk about sensitive subjects and resolve conflicts without feeling triggered and resentful towards that concern.
Practicing Conflict Resolution
Would you believe agreeing to take breaks in between heated arguments can help you and your partner resolve your conflicts better? Healthier ways to resolve disagreements are the best solution rather than arguing and withdrawing emotionally because it makes both partners feel understood and heard.
Strengthening Emotional Intimacy
Vulnerability does not only mean asking each other’s day, but also the dreams, fears, and even things we don’t even want to talk about. Openness with each other makes you and your partner feel connected and valued, which also translates into better physical intimacy.
The challenging times are sometimes the basis of how strong the relationship is, so if you can resolve it with only the both of you, the better. Couples counselling is equally important, as they can determine the patterns you and your partner have when faced with unexpected situations, so like couples therapy, talk about it one conversation at a time.
